Vaginismus is a condition I know so well. I had it for most of my married life, sex hurt so bad I couldn’t bare the thought of giving birth to my kids naturally so I gave birth through cesarian.

When I went to my gynecologist for my monthly check-up after the birth of my child, I told him about my condition and he recommended that I get some lubricant.

Maybe you are just like me, you desire to enjoy penetrative sex, but you feel so much anxiety, fear, and pain then this article is for you.

What is Vaginismus?

Vaginismus is a condition linked to an involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor muscles. This tightening results in painful penetration or prevents you from opening up to it altogether.

Vaginismus can be caused by:

• Past sexual trauma or abuse
• Unpleasant painful intercourse
• Fear of getting pregnant or going to hell
• Childbirth trauma
• Menopause

Circle of Pain Cycle

7 NURTURING WAYS TO NATURALLY HEAL VAGINISMUS

Here are 7 nurturing ways to naturally heal vaginismus.

Massage Your Breast

Breast massage is one of the best practices that I have ever done. It’s the simplest way to transform your relationship with your body.  It’s easy, sensual, and it creates a sense of love and pleasure. It gives you a vibrant, relaxed, and refreshed energy. The breast is a super powerful way to connect with your heart.

Here is how to do breast massage yourself:

• Lie down on your back or sit upright if that’s what feels good to you
• Starting with warming up skin-friendly oil, massage your breast down on the outside up on the inside a few times then down on the inside up on the outside. I feel like this is a really good way to detox your breast.
• Next, cup your breast gently then give it a shake.
• While doing this practice, I would like to invite you to say I love you, I love you, I love you while massaging your breast and staying connected to your yoni. This is a fabulous way to connect your heart to your yoni

Breathe Into Your Pussy

Pussy breathing is when you breathe as though there is a mouth in your yoni. You do this by inhaling and contracting the pelvic floor, exhaling and relaxing the pelvic floor. As you breathe you are learning to naturally relax the muscles around your yoni and feel more sensations there. You can also use this practice to move any emotional blockages you might have stored there too. The more you do this practice the more you build a better relationship with your yoni.

Do Orgasmic Breathwork Practices

Breathe is our single greatest source of energy and aliveness. Orgasmic breathwork is all about combining sex with breathwork. You can experience ecstatic orgasm when you learn how to move breathe through your body. You get high on feeling more of your own orgasmic sensations when you drop into your body and rewire your thoughts around your pleasure. You can also use breathwork to melt the shield that’s keeping you from experiencing true pleasure.

While doing your breathwork feel into these new downloads:

• I know what it feels like to feel pleasure in my pussy
• I know what it feels like to own my erotic blueprint
• I know what it feels like to be an orgasmic woman
• I know the creator’s definition of enjoying sex
• I know what it feels like to say yes or no
• I know what it feels like to ask for what I need and get me needs met.
• I know what it feels like to give pleasure in ways that empowered me.
• I know what it feels like to be a sexually sovereign

De-armour Your Yoni

De-armouring is a process focused on releasing sexual blockages and the act of eliminating any numbness or pain around the yoni.

Here is how to give yourself a “yoni massage” de-armouring

• Set the ambiance for this practice; light up the room, diffuse some essential oils, perhaps take a bath beforehand.
• Get clear on what you want to experience during this time – pleasure, healing or you just want to feel less pain.
• Gently put your hand over your vulva so your thumb touches the base of the clitoris, and your fingers are touching the shaft of the clitoris, breathe into your yoni and feel whatever is coming up without any expectation. Chat with your yoni, asking it what it wants, and how it’s doing.
• Be curious, and listen to your yoni with no goal other than to be with what’s present in the moment.
• Feel for any tension, pain, or numbness. If you feel some emotions as you are touching, put more pressure on that area and breathe into it to help release whatever is there —fear, anger, sadness—memories that might arise; stay present with it and sound out whatever you are feeling.
• The most important part of this practice is treating yourself with absolute love and acceptance. No judgment allowed here, only unconditional love and deep awareness can transmute all the pain that you are feeling.

Use Yoni Crystal Wand

A yoni wand is a crystal or other natural gemstone wand that is intended for sacred self-pleasure, manifestation, and healing. A wand can be inserted in the yoni in an enjoyable way. Oil your wand with your favorite oil and enjoy sensually rubbing it all over your body as you recite this self-loving affirmation.

• I love myself
• I am a sensual woman
• I am soft, sensual, and feminine.
• I am worthy of Love.

When you feel ready massage your yoni with your oil, pleasure yourself until you are wet then gently massage the entrance of your yoni with the wand. When you feel like it’s a full yes insert the wand. It should slide through if you are wet. The wand is the best tool to rewire your brain around your pleasure.

Sexy Squeeze Your Yoni

Lovingly squeeze and release the gland around the clitoris, urethra, entrance of the vagina, the perineum and the anus. Do this in the other direction too. If you can’t do it by yourself, use your hands to guide you. This practice helps you strengthen the muscles that allow greater pleasure. It’s also a great way to bring a renewed, fresh feeling to your yoni.

Create a Release Ritual

This ritual works to release a person, ancestral memories or a situation. It’s designed to release the root of the connection, the residue, or the memories that you’re carrying.

While self-pleasuring, I want to invite you to visualize this person or experience that you want to release. Say out loud, “I send you (and the name or the experience) to the light. It is time to go towards the light. You are no longer welcome here. Move to the light. I release all residue and connection with you.” Feel it moving up and out of your body, toward the light. Keep doing this until you feel at peace until you feel complete.

Feel your highest vibrational soul quality, visualize a big golden ball of sunlight and place it into the space you’ve just cleared. Call back fragmented, lost or trapped pieces of you that are in alignment, pieces that will bring you harmony.

End your practice with a inner smile or what feel right in that moment.

The healing journey can be painfully slow but I worked with a Sex Coach and healed my Vaginismus within a few months.

YOU ARE NOT BROKEN

I want you to know that you are so loved, treat yourself with so much love, and compassion. No one can give you so much love than you.

With patience, self-love, and commitment, you can help heal your yoni and develop a deeper understanding of the beauty, and power this feminine part can infuse into your life.

You are born to feel orgasmic pleasure in your yoni.

You’ve got this and I’m here to cheer you on!

So much love for you here.